Familiarity makes people feel entitled, the more closer you're the more they expect things from you. Also the fact that they are used to getting it from you, so saying no to them makes them feel somehow, they feel like you're rejecting them or they are now unimportant.
Like who thinks like that.
God abeg.
Why I brought this conversation up is that.
My uncle was expecting a nice contract and his brother needed money from him for his rent.
So he promised him the money.
The contract was delayed and he couldn't meet up.
And because he couldn't meet up his brother stop talking to him.
Not even a call, what if something bad had happened to my uncle that's how he would be keeping quiet.
That's bad. Why would I be angry because someone could not help me.
Well, that is you dear.
Very few people are wired that way. I don't know what to say about his brother, but I just feel he should have been understanding enough and at least check in. If I was your uncle, if the stuff later shows up which I pray it should, I wouldn't give him ...
.. him a dime. He clearly shows he's not for me, he's only after what I have to offer.
Spot on! This was one of the things I tried to explain that day when I mentioned people who borrow from you. The familiarity can become to consuming to the point of entitlement. That's why the ball is in our court to say no sometimes to avoid this poor attitude from them.
Exactly 💯
Yeah yeah yeah 😊👍
I very well understand that. Just that most of them take the no personally, they most times do not see it as you saying no to their requests, they see you saying no to them... Like...