Hello snaapie fam ❤️❤️
Happy Thursday from here.
It came to my mind today to discuss something here today.
Do people really value our friendship or are they just there for what they can benefit from us.
People say love is transactional what do you think??
Share your thoughts 💬 with us here❤️.
I think genuine friendship should go beyond what someone can gain from you... mutual care matters more.
Huhm, okay.The thing is people should actually love and value us for who we are and not for what they can benefit from us. And in as much as we can all agree that it's to transactional, you will as well agree that there's no way you won't benefit from someone you claim to value..
Yes your actually right there is no how you wouldn't get support from someone you claim to law and take care about you too but most people are used it that's why because that when they've not been else to benefit from you the just this discard you
I mean, in life, you give, you take. That's just it. The only thing I just feel is that, you shouldn't be there for someone only when you can benefit from them, you should value them even when they don't have anything to offer. So do you still value them when they have nothing?
I love the question you asked at the end do you still value people when they don't have anything to offer you that is where genuine friendship kicks in.
In order just like people say love is transactional these days it looks like friendship is also transactional
I've had some friends that over time do you felt like I don't really if you get to know what this wants from me and that's made them distance themselves from me and I will always ask my felt what is the problem or maybe try to reach out but it's never works.
Huhm.
You don't need to push yourself too hard.
Some may just need time, some may be facing things you may not know, and some just want the distance. If you've checked in and they don't have a tangible reason for not reciprocating same energy... Just let go.
Well I did that a long time ago.
About them going through one or two everyone is going through something
I really hope we learn to love people genuinely for who they are and not just what they bring to the devil or what we can okay for them
There's no relationship that doesn't come with conditions. Even the Bible we so reverence, tells us that we need to believe in God and obey his commandments or be cast into the fires of hell.
How much more humans? People will always love you genuinely but something must give.
If you aren't behaving the way they think their loved ones should or you're not reciprocating their feelings, they will eventually let you go.
It doesn't mean they didn't love you genuinely. It just means that they have reached their limit and that is valid.
For me this I don't really understand this but if that's what you see it as then it's fine, I believe we all have our different approach to this kind of topic.
I get your points that even the Bible said we must obey god pay our tight love our neighbors like we love ourselves for us to be in good relationship with God
And I also understand to that we shouldn't even be friends with people who do not add value to our life in any way at all but they are specific people I'm talking about here
Yeah this kind of people that will meet in our life and all they want to do is take from you they want to take from you financially knowledge wise emotional support every other thing they are going to take from you but they are never there when you really need them
These are the kind of people that I mean even in the Bible when we go as three God doesn't just leave us he finds a way to bring us our redirect our hearts back to him of the heart of man is wicked they don't they just abandoned you.
Everything is transactional these days love is transactional friendship is transactional more reasons why I don't even bother keeping too many friends.
I only stick with those who genuinely care about me even when I have anything to offer them or when I don't have anything to offer them.
I'll say people can only value their relationship with you when they have something tangible to hold onto. Say for instance, your care, understanding, love, tolerance and every other about you that impacts them in one way or the other.
Otherwise, they'll be forced to build a bridge 🙂
I think there are genuine friends, but these people are very hard to find. They are so rare. Many people don't really value friendship, but they value what they can get from somebodu
There are many genuine people around. But we have normalised getting something in return for friendship and love .
It's hard to find real friends.