RE: Walk The Plank — FoodiesUnite

which means you bring (much) value to the world. So it would be a shame.

Maybe. But consider that in the experience of the individual in this case - forced to suffer to benefit others, even though they don't want to live on themselves. Is that fair, or is it cruel?

I don't see myself suiciding, because I am far too stubborn :D

People who kill themselves do so, it seems, because they genuinely believe the lives of their loved ones would be better off.

I can understand this position, and perhaps in some circumstances the family would be better off. It is like the "a child needs their father/mother" but that is not actually true, and the child could be far better off without them. Think about all those stories of abusive parents.

The other thing is, that everything is a learning experience and the most is learned in hard times. Kids lose their parents in a war or car crash, what is the difference?

I don't see myself suiciding, because I am far too stubborn :D

Good. :)

Is that fair, or is it cruel?

It's an interesting question, for sure, but I would argue a fair outcome can sometimes also be cruel. And also, supposing the individual goes on living for his loved ones, why should it be fair when so little of our love and our relationships (romantic but also familial) is?

I don't know whether it's fair or cruel. Maybe both, but it's also an act of love. He's surviving to spare his loved ones the pain of living through his suicide, which is often tremendous. If you love someone a great deal and your choice is between your suffering and theirs, the choice is obvious. And I know you know all that already.

Kids lose their parents in a war or car crash, what is the difference?

All the difference. Kids whose parents suicide are gonna spend every damn day asking why mummy or daddy chose to leave them, one in the two people who are supposed to be there and not make that choice made that choice. There's no choice in dying in war or a car crash, so I would say quite a lot of difference, indeed.