We all grow up believing certain things about people, life, or the world. Some of those beliefs stay with us, while others completely fall apart when experience proves us wrong
So , what is the hardest belief or prejudice you've ever had to unlearn, and what made you change your mind?
Two things: history and religion. Both were manipulated, and it took my quite a lot of time to learn. The society may call me a delinquent by now, for my rebellious nature. But yeah, I found the intital beliefs and teaching wrong; so I just read, researched and followed that pathway.
That's quite a journey. It takes courage to question beliefs you've grown up with. Looking back now, was there one particular discovery that made you realize your old beliefs could no longer hold up?
You cannot "question" because your ancestors have been following it for centuries. This questioning thing turned everything upside down for me, it was the beginning of my journey. Why accept something which does not seem right?
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I feel that the questioning is healthy. The difficult part is knowing whether we're uncovering the truth or just replacing one belief with another
we're uncovering the truth or just replacing one belief with another
I say better die trying; then following the existing one. Hehe
I have stopped believing anything blindly, I think we have created many delusional things to make ourselves comfortable. I realized it through experience.
I like that cos experience can definitely make us more cautious. But do you think it's possible to live without trusting anything at first, or do we all have to believe something before we can test it?
Hmm that's a serious question and I think I've had a lot of beliefs I'm unlearning, just don't remember most right now to say one is the hardest.
Totally fair, some of these are buried. Maybe easier this way, is there something you believe now that your younger self would be shocked to hear you say?
One I remember now is, the prejudice I'm unlearning is that all men are cheaters. I've come to understand that most people who say that are people who have somehow attracted only those kind of people to themselves.
They believe that so it happens like that for them.
Well, I have heard this too countless of times and people still say it till now that all men are cheater, but what I will just add to this is the you put your response in an interesting way
Yeah, I think there are many situations before cheating happened. People ignore that and go ahead to commit.
That's a good distinction. It reminds us that patterns matter but they shouldn't become excuse for the person who chose to cheat
Exactly, no excuse for anyone and cheating isn't a good thing. I don't support or encourage it
However from what you said, doesn't it also put the blame on the person who got hurt instead of on the people who actually cheated? How do you tell the difference between someone who kept attracting the wrong people and someone who just had bad luck?
I wasn't trying to blame anyone, cheaters are always the ones to blame but most of those who got hurt must have seen the signs but ignored it.
Sure💯 red flags often make more sense in hindsight. The difficult part is knowing whether they were genuinely obvious or only became obvious after the betrayal
Yeah, I just pray for those in the situation already to be wiser and those are lucky not to experience it to be wise too.
That is just it. Because anyone can fall into it no matter how wise they are
It's not easy to tell the difference but yes, there are those who just had bad luck.